YOU GUYS NETFLIX MAY HAVE FUCKED UP IN THE BEST WAY POSSIBLE
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- Because you wanna
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- Looking hella cute
- Small children’s reactions
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
Boycott this fucking movie, for the love of god. These kinds of ideas are dangerous and set us back as a society
(made rebloggable on request by anon)
Oh you do not know what you just got yourself into.
Because they have a far more interesting relationship dynamic, because Aang treated Katara like she was a reward for his hard work as the Avatar, because Zuko needed the kind of emotional support Katara could offer (Crossroads of Destiny, finally seeing Iroh again, fighting Azula), and he understood that she wasn’t just some wholesome, good, wonderful person all the time, that demons need to be fought.
They balanced each other out, fire and water, destruction and healing, they were the obvious, passionate couple that, if Avatar had been the show that Korra tried to be, would have happened. They have a far more interesting development arc, which was beautifully executed over the course of the three seasons, whereas Kataang seemed to jump back and forth between Katara blushing for every five times she acted completely disinterested.
I’m sorry, but the episode before the final big four she was completely unsure, angry that he seemed so insistent that they be together when they’re in the middle of the war and he is a vital instrument in that. Then four episodes later, they’re kissing no questions asked? They’re still in a war, the fire lord is defeated but as we know from The Promise and from goddamn common sense, wars aren’t finished in a day. If Kataang had to happen, I would have at least liked to see some kind of allusion to the fact that it still isn’t the right time.
As it was, it felt awfully like Aang, as the male protagonist who worked so hard and succeeded in his ultimate goal set for the series, was being rewarded with Katara (yay! you saved the world! she’s not plot-conveniently confused about your relationship anymore! have at it, slugger, well done!) and as Katara is my favourite character, seeing her own personal development tossed under the bus for the sake of Aang’s reconciliation kind of pissed me off. And don’t even get me started on the whole Oedipus complex undertone throughout.
I liked that Katara and Zuko were always equals, (“you rise with the moon, I rise with the sun”) they always pushed each other harder, they worked well together and they knew it, they were an unstoppable force (THEY TOOK DOWN AZULA. Say what you want about Ozai, but I honestly think Azula was the tougher battle there) and that is a dynamic I love. It was almost like Bryke were testing Zutara actually worked in the third season, and almost got there before running back to Kataang. Because while Zutara is an obvious romantic relationship dynamic, leaving the protagonist without the ~ girl of his dreams ~ at the end of the series was more adverse from trope.
I don’t dislike Maiko, but I never loved Mai and I don’t think she did much for Zuko’s development as a character. If anything I felt like she represented the decline of all his process after CoD, so it felt strange that they ended up endgame. And I suppose you can argue that she followed him and proved herself worthy, but it always annoyed me that she did what she did not because she knew it was the right thing, but because she loved Zuko. She was on Azula’s side because she was bored and intimidated by her, so that betrayal doesn’t really feel that massive to me. She didn’t suddenly realise that her country, her family, were oppressive dictators and that it was her moral duty to stand up to that (in fact she was still pretty angry at Zuko about the country betrayal thing in tBR) she just realised “oh yeah, I really love my boyfriend”. Which yeah, doesn’t sing songs to me about Mai as a strong character (or about the treatment of female characters tbh), and doesn’t really make me feel like she’s the right person for who Zuko has become.
As for Aaag, as a character, I like him (jesus how could you not he’s fucking adorable) but he’s a twelve year old boy and he makes stupid ass decisions and emotionally, he is not mature enough for a relationship. In fact, before the finale we had already witnessed just how damaging his obsession with Katara was to his process as the Avatar. He almost died because he couldn’t let her go, the world was almost destroyed because he couldn’t get over his crush. He puts Katara on a pedestal, which seems really unhealthy to me, and treats her like the sun shines out of her ass, and is disappointed when it doesn’t. I don’t blame him much for that, because he’s a twelve year old boy. I would expect nothing less, but it bothers me when that is treated like legitimate love and affection. It was always about Aang, and only about Katara when the plot needed it. Katara is one of the strongest characters, and yet she’s treated unsettlingly like an object when it comes to Kataang, which is so frustrating because it’s not that I dislike Aang, I just dislike the way Kataang was executed, because it was so so so so bad, for the same reason Korra was so disappointing; Bryke can’t do major romantic plots.
I could go on, believe me, I could go on, but I won’t. My love of Zutara comes down to the fact that Katara and Zuko were two of my favourite characters, and both of their relationships were stifling for their development, all the while their own relationship blossomed and fed off each other and made them better people for their interaction. They had chemistry which only maybe Suki/Sokka could rival.
A guy at a princess store in Disneyland was asking me if I related to Merida in any way and I was like
“I don’t know man. I’m more of an Elinor.”
And he busted out laughing.
What I love most about this movie is that shows that being a princess is not wearing a beautiful dress, marrying a prince and live happily ever after, but a job, a hard job with duties and responsibilities were a lot of people depend on you
being the Lady of a medieval estate was SUCH AN IMPORTANT FUCKING JOB AND SO FUCKING FULL OF HARD WORK WHICH MEDIEVAL MEN ACKNOWLEDGED TBH
(one problem with perception of medieval gender roles is that most of the people who were writing, especially those who were writing HISTORY, were CLERGYMEN who had never been married and lived in a weird situation cut off from the way the rest of the world worked and had like no actual life experience with the real world - and then popular culture’s idea of it has been heavily informed by VICTORIAN choices of who and what to translate and popularize)
upper class medieval women were expected to run and manage the entire estate that they got from their husband (or that they already had in their own right through inheritance or as their marriage portion), a job which was acknowledged as being way difficult and requiring a wife with strength and fortitude and business sense if you wanted to be a successful person
they were the HR managers of households that might have over a hundred people in, and tho a duchess or a queen would certainly not go to the store to do the household shopping, and she probably had a steward to assist her, it was ultimately her responsibility to know what things were needed for that household, to make sure that the appropriate people obtained those things, to oversee the use of the household materials, to make sure that EVERYTHING got done so that ALL those people could live and work smoothly. they wrote letters and managed the business of the estate and networked with other members of the nobility for both important game-of-thrones political reasons and for smaller more personal reasons like ‘that guy has a really nice deer chase, so if i send him some marmalade from our garden, he might send some venison back as a return gift”
even in lower class households mom managed everything and women were basically considered to be shrewder and have better heads for that particularly kind of business than men and choosing a wise wife was the best thing you could do for yourself as a man who intended to be successful
they were like hands-on CEOs and shit yo and don’t get me wrong society was sexist as fuck and they were limited as hell in what they could do and everything was classist beyond belief but no way was being a noblewoman just a matter of sitting up a tower looking pretty & the contributions that they made are so important
also, the ladies of castles were responsible for defense when their husband was away at war (which happened a lot), so while personally participating in battle was unusual (though not entirely unheard-of) they did often find themselves in strategic command. and in wartime they frequently functioned as a sort of de facto logistics officer.
oh, and has anyone mentioned diplomacy. because an arranged marriage is only the START of a princess’s diplomatic career. the alliance she forges with her marriage is one she’s responsible for maintaining her entire life. unless she decides to go ahead and take over the country; that’s been an option too from time to time. :D
suddenly i really want to see a disney movie about a princess AFTER the wedding — forging a political bond with her new husband, defending the castle, sending troops and supplies to make sure he comes home from the war, reading secret reports from her spies in the enemy’s court… *swoon*
when I was a little girl I was asked didn’t I want to be a princess?
I said I didn’t know anything about running a country, let me be the royal librarian instead
honestly can’t wait for the 50 shades movie to normalize the manipulation of lower-level female employees. can’t wait for the new wave of “consent is sexy” banners on the cover of cosmo. can’t wait for teen girls to think that a controlling relationship is romantic. can’t wait for sexualized violence to become increasingly mainstream. and most of all, i can’t wait for bdsm to be labeled a feminist revolution
you dangerous, dangerous people
That’s what I never understand about the purge movies, if all laws were suspended I still don’t want to commit fucking MURDER.
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If those hills were alive, they ain’t now…
if you wannabe my lover, you gotta get with my feminist ideologies
I was born in the wrong generation. This generation is still racist as fuck and I can’t download a pizza. Wake me up in the year 3019.